Now maybe my hormones are still raging here and there after giving birth, in fact I think they kicked in quite late afterwards, but I'm finding a lot of things really grating on me at the moment.
So much so that I've had to take a small step back from Twitter and Facebook and not be as heavily present due to getting wound up by petty little things that people appear to have problems with.
When I started blogging I did it for me. I wanted somewhere I could talk about my life, my boys, my opinions, my views and so on. Almost like a silent friend I suppose. Someone I could tell something too and not be judged on.
I was delighted (and still am) that people took interest and read (and still do) what I had to say. Interested in me, my life, my boys, my opinions, my views and so on.
I was inspired by a number of blogs. Some I still read, some I don't.
The ones I don't are simply because they changed. Their blogs didn't become about them anymore, it was almost like they'd let you into their lives, introduced you to themselves, then shut the door. Slam. Right in your face.
Every now and then letting you peer in through a tiny gap in the curtains.
Which would be ok. But, its not just about the gap in the curtains. They appear to have opened the door to a make believe world where everything is perfect. The world, inventions, everything is perfect.
Free things. Why when some people become a blogger, do they expect free things? Give me X for free and I'll review it. (I sometimes wonder if these requests end with "p.s don't you know who I am?!")
I do some reviews. But my blog would go on without them. It's not the be all and end all.
I personally want to see completely honest reviews. Reviews which tell me what not to buy because actually once you tested it out, you thought it'd be better off in the bin. Or reviews consisting of products which you have personally bought and desperately wanted to tell everyone about without gaining anything in return, other than a good feeling for helping others out.
I've had to unlike/unfollow so many blogs from Facebook due to my news feed being constantly clogged up with review, review, review.
On Twitter or Email I feel I can filter through these easier but on Facebook, it becomes a bit much, it blocks out a lot of updates from "real life" friends and my family which I don't feel is right.
I tried blogging last year and didn't really know where to go with it. I tried again earlier this year with two other blogs and then hit it right with this one.
Some people may not like it but its MY blog and I like it. Its my space to do what I want to do.
I am grateful for readers and I do hope people like reading it but I fully expect some to think "what a load of poo" or to maybe feel offended at some things, not intentionally but we are all different and its bound to happen.
This brings me onto my other annoyance. People getting so worked up at their stats. At how many people are, or aren't reading their blog. Do something about it then. OR loosen up and just don't worry about it. Appreciate those who do read and forget about those who don't.
And if you don't receive comments then move on and forget about it.
At one point I worried about my comments, or lack of, but then realised if people wanted to comment then they would. I'd rather people comment because they want to, rather than feeling guilt tripped into it.
I know there have been times I've really enjoyed reading a post but simply have nothing to write in the comments box.
Comparing the blogs I read with mine I do have the least amount of comments but it doesn't bother me in the slightest. My stats tell me that people are reading my posts and that's enough for me, even if only 5 people read it that's still good enough.
I probably check my stats once a month now to see, overall, how posts are going. To see which ones are popular, which ones not so, and to see which link ups are worthwhile.
You see I do have a "thing" about link ups. This is the one time I am bothered about how many readers I have. We all put effort into these posts (The Gallery, Silent Sunday-when it was a link up, and so on) so to do this and get nothing in return is a slap on the face.
For the smaller ones, and for Meme's I am bothered if the main instigator and creator doesn't comment on those joining in. When I posted my A-Z of Me Meme I tried my best to comment on a lot of them simply because I appreciated people getting involved and the effort put into answers and posts. And it made me feel good.
I guess I just want to see excitement in some other blogs again. In the original ones I started to follow. The ones I stopped reading (but occasionally check back at to see if the magic is there again)
Appreciate your readers and be yourself. Don't change just to get more.
Blog for you before you blog for anyone else.